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The Perks of Brewing Versus Buying Coffee -- Savings Experiment {WalletPop}
Jan 29th 2011 10:30AM 1) single-cup coffee machines: Yuck! tastes like instant coffee no matter what the manufacturer says. I'd rather drink tea.
2) to get a gourmet coffee flavor out of store-bought can -- purchase about a pound of good gourmet and add to the store-bought can. Use approx. 1 scoop can coffee grounds to 2 scoops of the gourmet and you will barely tell difference that it's a mixture.
Bride Sues Groom for Leaving Her at the Altar -- To the Tune of $95K {Lemondrop}
Dec 16th 2010 7:56AM In the opinion of many people, acceptance of an engagement ring does consitute a "Contractual Promise." -- that is where the "breach of promise" lawsuits come into play when one party to an engagement willfully breaks the promise. The following was the original use of an "engagement ring": When a couple were engaged in modern times, not times of dowries-that's a whole other concept, but the engagement ring represented not only a Promise (Contract of Marriage) but a physical monetary "down payment", if you will, of a future action on the part of the groom. That is why the woman gets the engagement ring and women do not give engagement rings to men!!
The engagement ring represents a "Performance Bond" contract. Now traditionally it's the woman & her family who arranges and pays for the wedding: dress, church/temple, reception, photographer, music, etc. - the value of the ring comes into play as when "sold" the income derived from it makes good on the cost of the bride's family IF the "groom" decides to cancel the wedding after the downpayments and other costs have been borne by the bride & her family.
So the engagement ring is not just a token of a promise, but an actual conveyance of monetary value, sort of the man "putting his money where is mouth is."
The engagement ring should not be returned to the man if the bride or her family has outlayed down payments on the wedding: it should be sold or cashed in to pay for the money the bride and her family cannot get back. If nothing has been paid out as yet, then it's really up to the conscience of the engaged woman to determine if the ring should be returned to the man, after all, the ring was the representation of a promise and if he broke the promise, the ring is hers, if she broke the promise then the ring is HIS.
As to this woman's story above, the ring or rings he purchased for her should be sold and put towards the total monies the bride & family paid; then the balance should be paid at least 50/50 bride & groom or 40 bride and 60 groom, depending on the circumstances (such as he cheated or she cheated in the relationship - sort of a comparative negligence so to speak - but again, that would be between the feuding couple).
Again, there is no wedding insurance which will pay the costs of a broken engagement and the resultant wedding costs, but there is "Divorce Insurance" for the aftermath.
Airline Hiring Back 'Overweight' Flight Attendants {AOL Travel News}
Dec 3rd 2010 7:11AM Gee, define "overweight." The news article stated "overweight" not "obese." To some, overweight could be just 10 lbs., to others 20 and so on.
As an aside, men's attitudes kill me: So if a woman has an extra 15 lbs on her frame and it's in breasts & some in butt, is that overweight? According to some of you, is she then "overweight" -- well overweight IS overweight, right? and should she then be hired? What if that same 15 lbs over desired weight was evenly distributed over her entire body? Or it's only ok if the overweight big-busted flight attendant is leaning over you to give you a pillow? Who cares if she's "bumping" into you?
And how overweight are the pilots? And what about male flight attendants? Are their different rules for men than women?
Food for thought ;)) I'm onto you all.
New Facebook 'Messages' Centralizes Your E-mail, Texts and Chat {Switched}
Nov 16th 2010 5:48AM Surpise, Facebook isn't just for college kids any longer! The worldhas t now. Us "geezer" have inflitrated it.
Not all bedbug prevention items are worth the money {WalletPop}
Nov 2nd 2010 9:34AM AOL is providing you with the best bed bug expert in the field. He is correct, eliminating bed bugs is not a "do it yourself" project. I've had these critters in my home in 2009 and am talking from experience.
There is one item the article did not mention and that's the false claim that "cedar oil" will kill bedbugs. In any form cedar oil, whether as a spray, or fogger, does not kill them - there is little credence of its effectiveness. Additionally, people with asthma or plant allergies stand to have bad reactions from a cedar oil treatment. In some areas of USA "cedar oil" used by a non-professional is illegal. I have been told that "cedar oil" is used in South America and Texas, but perhaps that is because they do not have access to professional pest control chemicals or these reports are coming from less affluent parts of Texas & South America and again, cannot afford professional pest control work (?). Again, if home remedies worked, then pest control companies wouldn't be showing a 60% increase in work in the past years from bedbug infestations alone.
In my experience, I had a very mild infestation and it took a minimum of 4 professional treatments -- even after 3 treatments I still saw bedbugs -- spaced between 10-14 days apart, to rid my living quarters of bedbugs (however, I extended it to 5 treatments to double make sure they were gone). I had to throw my headboard away, as well as clothing and shoes, books, etc. which could not go into a hot dryer for 45 minutes (which kills bed bugs). Another issue with bed bugs is that many "over the counter" bed bug sprays and treatments do not kill the "bed bug eggs." Sometimes that is what you are bringing home when you go to a hotel/motel (other locations where bedbugs are now found: hospitals, nursing homes, jails, stores, theaters, emergency rooms, ambulances, offices, for now). For example, a neighbor in an apt. building (with a shared hallway and foyer) may have bedbugs and while removing his infested furniture eggs (which are very, very tiny and almost transulcent) can drop from the bottom of the furniture (think mattresses and couch). If you happen to walk into the hallway after this, you may inadvertently pick up an egg on your shoe and take it into your apartment. I feel sorry then for mailmen/deliverymen, social workers, visiting nurses, etc. They are at greatest risk.
The Marie Claire 'Fat People' Story Calls for Therapy, Not an Apology {Lemondrop}
Oct 27th 2010 8:21PM A few things
1) Are you the same Maura Kelly from grammar school who put asprins in my milk during recess? I never told on you but I should have. You were a "mean" girl even from back then.
2) I am very, VERY happy that I stopped subscribing to Marie Claire years ago if this is how they feel about overweight customers. I knew there was just something not right about Marie Claire magazine.
3) Ms Kelly needs sensitivity training. IF she expressed what she did in any other work setting she'd be in HR right now either getting fired or have to take a sensitivity training seminar in order to hold onto her job.
4) I hope Ms Kelly learns compassion and to find beauty in the simplest things in life - no matter how big they are.
Middle-Aged Women and Short Hair -- What Gives? {Lemondrop}
Oct 26th 2010 6:30AM I'd love to keep my hair long but these are the drawbacks as I got past a certain age
1) It's too expensive to color gray at hair salon when your hair is long. They charge extra for long hair. My hair budget is no different from when I was younger so, yes money is an issue. I work too hard to spend it on something that is only going to grow out.
2) The workplace: Problem, as older workers we tend to put longer hours in just to make sure our employers don't fire us and replace us with younger workers. It feels as if I spend more time at work than I do at home. So I have little or no time for hair that requires high maintenance such as blowing it out and curling iron, etc.
3) Time. In addition to work taking up more time than ever, there are other obligations which take from my free time: working out, doing the household shopping, going to visit our elderly parents and doing their housework and shopping, my own housework, doing things with our kids. Actually being stretched into too many directions.
4) Some older women are losing the thickness of their hair and the longer hair calls attention to this. There's no point in growing it long when you can see your scalp.
5) Physical limitations. Some women as they age (as do men) have issues with arthritis in neck, spine, shoulders, elbows, wrists, hands, etc. It can hurt to have to lift your arms up over your head to do simple things like use curling iron, flat iron, blow drying your hair out, putting rollers in, even washing and rinsing long hair. The only alternative is to shorten the hair so that the styling process is shortened as well.
I hope I was able to clear things up for you Emerald.
Opinion: Sometimes, It's OK to Let Your Kid Be Bullied {ParentDish}
Oct 23rd 2010 8:47AM Unfortunately, verbal bullying oftentmes escalates into physical bullying and striking out at the victim. If the child doesn't respond to the bully on the first few attempts, then that child is already in need of a protector, as that child isn't ready yet to get to the level he or she needs to be to respond to a bully. That child needs an adult to intervene. Again, unfortunately many parents of bullies are BULLIES themselves and would laugh at another parent calling them on the phone to voice a complaint about their child. When in early grades Bullies learn their bullying-art at home, where else? Don't expect the bully's parents to be compassionate about the victim. The bully needs to be put in his/her place; sometimes there's a group of them at school who stick together against the victim; so if you know of one, go look for their co-conspirators (think pecking order rules). The verbal assaults eventually become physical after a certain number of verbal assaults towards the passive victim. If the victim does stand up for him/herself NOW in TODAY'S School System BOTH the bully and the victim will be "painted with the same brush" and suspended. Now since the school has eliminated the "natural" way of eliminating a bully (via confrontation) it's up to the school and teachers to figure out what they are going to do to keep the bully in his/her place. The school is perpetuating the problem, so THEY have to come up with a way to resolve it without continuing to make the victim more vulnerable to the other students who are potential bullies and without making the student look like he/she is weak. Any parent who let's their child endure 9 mos. of bullying does not really love their child as they should. They are falsely utillizing "tough love" to ignore the problem. Real love protects, has compassion, and nurtures. Allowing someone to psychologically compromise your child month in and month out is child abuse.
Sister Wives TLC True Story -- 'I Married My Younger Sister's Husband' {Lemondrop}
Oct 19th 2010 12:22AM But what about the "celestial marriage ceremonies" which take place in
the Church of Latter Day Saints wherein "marriage in name only" to a
dead person takes place and is recorded by Mormon Church Temple,Salt Lake
City, Utah. This is a loophole in the "holiness process." While the LDS doesn't
actively participate in polygamy, it gives the church members the
blessing to be married to numerous "dead" persons in order to achieve
"godhood" in the next life. Thru this method, LDS is still advocating
that a set of multiple partners is needed as a parameter for
happiness (being gods themselves) in the next life. So let's not
dance around the fact that whether it's LDS or the "Cults of LDS"
there is a "mindset" that a man must have more than one wife in order
to be a "god." Who made up this crass religion, Hugh Hefner?
Interesting reading from W. Martin, KingdomofCults: 1890 no more polygamy but "celestial marriage" put in its place - this was way to "seal" marriages between the dead using special rites & ceremonies - proxy ceremonies
And while we are on the subject, if you in those "cult-sect" marriages
ARE taking tax money (WIC, Section H, Food Stamps, etc.) YOU ARE MY
BUSINESS. By taking my tax money, you have invited me into your lives
to judge your lifestyle for myself. If I am going to pay for it, I
ought to know what's going on and HOW TO STOP YOU as now you are
interfering with my take-home pay. I will not subsidize your
"religion." And if it's really a religion, you have violated Genesis
3:5 where serpent told Eve that if she ate of the apple, she'd be like
a god. Isn't this what both LDS and the "sect" are selling to
their membership? A chance at godliness in the afterlife? And who
was really the identity of the Serpent?
Good reference book "Kingdom of the Cults" by Walter Martin, Ed. 1985
And ending with a shout-out to the husbands of these polygamy unions - please explain to the average Americans what type of work do you do to support 4 wives and 20 children? Please fill us in because we have families of 4 and aren't making it and your suggestions will assist. If we don't hear from you we will presume that it is very true that your wives are collecting govt. assistance.
Sister Wives TLC True Story -- 'I Married My Younger Sister's Husband' {Lemondrop}
Oct 18th 2010 11:30PM To Freedom: Don't be so naive. No one in this day in age can support a family of 20 on one single income unless you are a CEO on Wall Street or a celebrity. AND I have seen with my own eyes and heard with my own ears on TV stations such as WE, etc. programs about these mormon sects that they do in fact rely on federal and state aide to survive. Believe what you want, but if it's your desire to make sure that they are free to live their live as they see fit, you then write out your own checks to support them - put YOUR money where your mouth is and don't come to other hard-working people who are supporting their wife of 1 and 1.2 children to help a group of subversives.
