If you want a bag that's super feminine without being too terribly frilly this pink Stam Ostrich Tote by Marc Jacobs might be what you're looking for. It is big and pink but it's an earthy shade, plus the ostrich leather gives it an interesting texture. Silver hardware includes a detachable chain shoulder strap and a logo clasp at the top for closure, and other than that it's a pretty simple and straightforward design with a roomy interior (just one zip pocket) lined in leather. $5,500